Do you wish you could attract exactly who you want? Do you want to have more dates and more choices? Would you like to meet the person of your dreams? Perhaps you need to discover the rules of attraction.

There are five rules that will bring you more of what you want: more choices, more love, and more happiness. When clients come to me looking for a relationship, we concentrate on these rules of attraction. Following these rules puts them in control of their destiny.

Five Rules of Attraction to Get Exactly Who You Want

1. Look for signs of love.

Change your negative picture that love does not exist. Since your thoughts become your reality, you need to look for signs of love between a man and a woman. If you do not think love happens except in the movies, it may take you a while to see it in others. But it is out there. Start writing down the positive examples of love that you see. This will become your book of evidence that you can refer to when you get discouraged. These new examples become some of your new thoughts.

2. Believe that you will find love.

If you believe that you can find your mate, you will. If you believe that you can't, you won't. Other people have found their soul mate...you can too.

3. Focus on what you want.

We get what we focus on. Think about what kind of relationship you would like to have. Dream big. Make a list of the top ten qualities you would like to have in another. Whenever your thoughts and feelings go to hopeless, change your thoughts. Cut pictures out of a magazine that show a man and a woman enjoying their time together, whether walking on a beach or sharing a candlelit dinner. Post these pictures in a place where you can see them often. When you look at them several times a day, see yourself in that picture.

4. Surround your vision of the relationship you want with feeling.

When you look at pictures of couples having fun, or when you see others enjoying each other, imagine that you are doing the same. Feel it happening to you. See yourself having the relationship you have always wanted.

5. Become the person you are looking for.

This is the most important law of attraction. You attract who you are. What kind of person do you want to find? Are you that person? Get busy becoming the wonderful person you would like to share your life with. If you are depressed or despairing, get help. Remember to fill yourself with positive energy by doing activities that you love. Sort out your finances, handle your past baggage, make your living environment something you are proud of that gives you peace and comfort, and surround yourself with friends and family members who support you. It is from this space that you create someone who will love you.

And finally, be a generous spirit...to yourself and to others. We find someone to love when we love ourselves in a kind and nurturing way. You deserve to love and be loved. And remember...someone waits for you.